As a woman, right after we secure a job in our early 20s, we need to settle down with a partner, get married, have a baby, retire then die.

Well, let's save the discussion of marriage pressure for another day and jump straight to the part where women are constantly asked or pressured, 'When will you be carrying the pitter-patter of small feet?'

Is this pressure for motherhood on women justified?

Somehow our society thinks it’s very normal to give comments and advice to women about these things that should ideally be personal. Of course, expecting a baby is great news in a woman's life. There's no denying that it is a wonderful, beautiful moment knowing that you are pregnant.

The decision to have a child is one of the most significant life-altering decisions one makes. Perhaps, all the events leading up to finding out about the pregnancy and disclosing it are private moments.

There are a plethora of reasons why shooting this question casually is akin to walking into an emotional minefield. You have no idea about miscarriage and fertility issues, genetic concerns, lack of reproductive organs, and many more which can be classified as the main health issues that have been going through women. We need to understand that the pressure of pregnancy looms over and affects women more than men. That’s a real deal!

It is high time for us to get rid of the idea that women's main priority is to get married and have children/families. We are in 2022 and kindly refrain from asking a woman when she is going to have a baby. Some women can choose not to have children, whereas others cannot have kids if they want to. The reasons could be umpteen, and there’s just one takeaway – it’s their choice!

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