When we think of domestic abuse, our minds often default to images of women as victims. But abuse knows NO gender.


It is a pattern of control, manipulation, and violence that can affect anyone, and that includes men. Imagine coming home after a long day, hoping to find comfort in your own space, only to be met with fear and hostility.

Imagine living in silence, not because you have no one to talk to, but because you fear no one would believe you or worse, that you would be ridiculed for speaking out. This is the hidden reality for many men who suffer abuse behind closed doors.

Let's talk about the silent struggle....

Domestic abuse against men is a topic that remains heavily underreported and misunderstood. Cultural expectations often dictate that men should be “tough,” “resilient,” and capable of handling anything thrown their way. As a result, male victims often endure their trauma quietly, wearing silence like a form of armour, one that protects them from judgement, but slowly chips away at their emotional wellbeing. Abuse isn't about physical strength. It’s about power and control.

Whether it’s emotional manipulation, verbal degradation, or physical harm, men : like women, can find themselves trapped in toxic, abusive relationships. Yet many feel unsupported, invalidated, or ashamed to seek help.






Why MEN might stay?

There are many reasons why male survivors may remain in abusive relationships:

Societal Pressure: Men are often expected to be the ‘strong one’ or the ‘provider’ in a relationship. Admitting victimhood may feel like admitting failure, a violation of deeply rooted social norms.

Fear of Judgement: Concerns over being perceived as weak, unmanly, or even mocked can prevent men from speaking up. There is still a pervasive stigma surrounding male vulnerability.

Lack of Support: Many male victims report a lack of understanding from friends, family, and institutions. This can lead to feelings of isolation and hopelessness.

Responsibility and Guilt: Men may feel responsible for the state of the relationship, believing it’s their job to "fix" things, especially when they see themselves as the ones who are supposed to be in control also when they have children.


Breaking the silence

It’s time to change the narrative. Domestic abuse is not a gendered issue, it is a human issue. We must create safe spaces for all survivors, regardless of gender, to come forward without fear or shame. It begins with awareness, empathy, and the willingness to listen without judgment.

To the men enduring abuse in silence: you are not alone, and you are not weak. Seeking help is not a sign of failure, it’s a step towards healing, strength, and freedom. You will get through it step by step, day by day. And one day, you will look back and know that you deserve better, and you’ll carry no regrets for walking away from what once held you back.

Source : National Domestic Violence Hotline
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