It's always good to be come across this kind of love story and sure you guys would love to. 

Selvamanikam Bhrapakaran and Jotheeswary Bhrapakaran, both living with visual impairment, have shown the world what resilience, love and partnership truly mean. Their journey offers a powerful reminder that relationships are built not merely on convenience, but on compassion, shared purpose and unwavering commitment.

Bhrapakaran has been employed at the Bank of Nova Scotia in Toronto for more than 25 years, the first person with vision loss to be appointed by any bank in Canada. Together, the couple continue to inspire many through the life they have built, their contributions to society, and the family they raised with dignity and joy.

Bhrapakaran lost his sight at the age of 10 after an unsuccessful surgery. He was studying in Colombo when the 1983 riots forced him to pause his education, destroying most of his study materials. A teacher they both knew in Jaffna connected him with Jothy, whose notes and resources helped him continue learning. Both were around 20 years old then.

They later reconnected at the Jaffna Association for the Visually Handicapped (JAVHP), working together on social initiatives. Their friendship grew during their time at Jaffna University, where they studied under the same cohort.

After university, both became involved in advocating for education accessibility for visually impaired children. At that time, there was only one school , Nuffield School for the Blind and Deaf in Kaithaddy. Driven by a shared mission, they helped establish new schools such as Vaalvagham School in Chunnakam, which continues to produce successful graduates to this day.

Their work eventually expanded to Batticaloa, where they helped identify visually impaired children and later founded Dharisanam School in Kallady. Through these collective efforts, they discovered compatibility, trust and shared purpose, the foundation of what would become their life partnership. They married in December 1990 at the age of 27.

Jothy recalls being struck by his honesty and eloquence. While she still had partial sight then, physical appearance wasn’t the defining factor, a deeper intuition led her to him.

Bhrapakaran admired her character, compassion and commitment to social work. Their personalities balanced one another naturally, he is being calm and reserved, she is being expressive and spirited.

They navigated life not by lamenting limitations, but by finding possibilities. Mobility skills helped them remain independent, and even after Jothy eventually lost her sight, they adapted without compromising their parenting or household responsibilities.

Their eldest daughter began helping with colour coordination, and Jothy trained with an organization called Balance to learn cooking, baking and daily living skills designed for visually impaired individuals. Their home became a space of ability, not disability.

The couple welcomed three children, all sighted. With support initially from family and later through their own independence in Canada, they raised their children confidently. Tasks such as bathing, feeding and even administering medicine were accomplished independently with careful method.

Despite challenges, they made sure their children experienced the world fully, theme parks, city outings, travel abroad and exposure to music, dance and spiritual learning. Their children grew up proud of their parents, often introducing them with admiration.

They believe a healthy relationship begins with acceptance. Instead of arguing before their children, they resolve disagreements privately, modelling respect and emotional maturity at home. They also encourage not delaying life decisions unnecessarily, especially for those who hope to have children and wish to enjoy an energetic, fulfilling parenthood.

Give each other space, embrace differences and avoid trying to change your partner. Many regrets being overly selective in youth, only to struggle with companionship later in life. They believe love grows through acceptance, not expectations.

They also shared that relationships today have become transactional and reminded that partnerships thrive when people focus on giving, not merely receiving. Life is meant to be shared, experienced and lived fully.

This kind of love story, gosh! May God’s blessings always shower upon them. 

Source / Image Credit : TamilCulture